Deep In Thought
THE MIND SHIFT
Do you like football? Well, you don't need to like football to get this metaphor!
Imagine the courage and mindset you need to have in order to run straight into a group of men ready to tackle and knock you down. Our natural instinct is to run away in fear. Football players voluntarily choose to put themselves in these situations, every single day!
How do they do it?
The only thing that's going to help them is knowing that they can get right back up and try again. In order to do that, you need to have a place in your mind that you can go to, that's going to be a place of certainty and calmness.
Football players don't wake up ready to get tackled as if it's the same as breathing. They need to practice mental awareness and mental strength - especially if they're having a bad day. This applies to everybody in all aspect of our lives, at whatever circumstance we're in or whatever we're going through.
A lot of times, we think we need to change a circumstance or a situation in order to be happy or successful. But what if you didn't have to change the circumstance? What if you were able to not have to change your circumstance, and instead just change your thoughts and your perspective.
Let's say you want to lose 10 pounds and your immediate thought about that circumstance of wanting or needing to lose 10 pounds, is "ugh it's so hard to lose weight, I don't want to give up everything I love to eat."
Your thought is not that it's so hard to lose weight, it's the fear of having to lose something - You're losing out on not eating all these things you want to eat. But if you have that thought, you will spark specific feelings about losing weight, which can include insecurity, loneliness, desperation, frustration, anger, FOMO - all the feelings for losing 10 pounds. You'll start, your thoughts will run your mind, and you'll either give up or binge.
Now, this time your thought about losing those 10 pounds can be, "I have to lose 10 pounds. This can be hard but I'll work at it every day." You can look at it by working to lose one pound per week. This new thought, just like the other one, will spark a feeling - but because you've broken it down to saying, losing weight can be hard, but I'll start losing one pound a week, your thought now might be hopefulness, excitement, determination. You'll feel motivated, right? Because now you've broken it down and instead of losing 10 pounds, you're going to lose one pound per week. And with that thought in mind, you're feeling a little better, and so once you start feeling a little better and your thoughts are positive, then your actions based on those thoughts will become your result.
Do you see the difference? In most scenarios and most circumstances in our lives, our thoughts are truly what give us our results.
If you have a bad thought about something, that's just going to spark negative feelings, and those feelings are going to cause you to act in a way that's probably not in your best interest, and then what's going to be the result of that? You're back at square one.