We think it's the every day stuff or that ONE major argument from three years ago.
Truth is, there are situations that we argue over - but what you're REALLY upset about is how that person or situation make you feel...
If you think of all the times you've been really upset, most likely you felt one of the above.
How do you get through the argument easier? By noticing which one you feel and then telling them.
Try: I feel unheard when I explain why I'm angry.
Try: When you do XYZ it makes me feel alone because you don't have my back.
Using these specific words helps shine a light on how you're FEELING versus words of anger or blame.
The more you're able to incorporate this, the better your communication will be and the easier you'll move through disagreements.
Try it out! You'll get the hang of it soon enough.